Sex and drugs, two pathways to altering consciousness. Making aspects of them illegal to support an institutional agenda of subjugation is in effect a war on consciousness from the State. The State sees these as threats to its institutions and programs of control. 

Activist Conner Habib:

“Once you start to self-actualise by investigating your own consciousness you become a threat.”

I stumbled upon Mary Jane, a cannabis lifestyle blog edited by Mira Gonzales and owned by Snoop Dogg. Just one of those random things that happen at 5:30 in the morning. It showed up in my twitter feed (actually the podcast link showed up in my feed and in the spirit of discovery I pressed play and kept on listening to the end.)

It was interesting conversation between Mira, the host, and her guests activist Conner Habib and feminist professor Dr Heather Berg. Some of the perspective they shared on sex work, porn, and drug work I found intriguing, like this idea of exploring consciousness through sex and drugs as being a threat to the establishment’s money-making agenda. Sex sells is the common notion. But actually, it’s not sex that sells it’s the transference of the arousal brought on by looking at a sexy model standing next to an exploded image of beer that sells the beer.  Basically, the ad is beaming thoughts to your subconsciousness mind that you’re never gonna get the girl in the ad, but the feelings you’re feeling can be satisfied by drinking the beer. Or something like that.

Anyway, check out the episode. You can watch it here or listen to it on iTunes.

I found myself caught up in this debate on Reddit: AITA for taking husband’s sex doll to the trash?

In this instance, I think the lady was definitely wrong. By her own admission, she knew he had the doll while they were dating and that he used it frequently. She married him knowing he had and used the doll (not as frequently after marriage). She has her own sex toys (but doesn’t like his because it has a face).

This week she snapped and while her husband was at work she took it to the town dump and threw it away. Just to add some context to this, the type of sex doll (NSFW link) in question has a starting price of $6,000.

I have to say, I side with the dude in this instance (and not because he’s a dud) but because the lady knew he had it. Married him knowing he had it (and didn’t make any conditional demands that he get rid of it). Has and uses her own sex toys. And threw away an expensive piece of equipment without her husband’s consent.

What fascinates me about this thread is the psychological strain I image the woman must be under. On some level, I image she must feel like she’s competing with a doll over her husband’s affection/attention. And the unasked question ringing in her head probably is “why is he having sex with a doll, when he could be having sex with me? Am I that inadequate?”

Aside from her throwing this thing away, I think they have some deeper issues to address between the two of them.

Anyway, read the thread and tell me what you think?

I wonder what was going through Tommy Sheridan’s mind as he stood clutching his wife outside the courthouse, where he had been found guilty of perjury, while she gave a canned speech about standing by her man.

A man who had been outed by the News of the World as being a swinger and a serial adulterer. Why that was news to anyone is beyond me. Politicians have been doing this kind of thing since forever. It seems to come with the territory. Power and sex go together like salt and pepper, peanut butter and jam, ham and cheese, well, you get the point.

What I don’t get is why he thought he could get away with it in the first place. I guess power has a way of making people think they are invincible. I mean if you go to a public place like the swingers’ club Cupid’s in Manchester with an entourage of people, one of whom is a journalist, how could you not expect to be outed? I guess Tommy thought the old Shaggy line, “It wasn’t me,” would be enough to give him plausible deniability.

I wonder what was going through Tommy’s mind when he called up his pals Andy McFarlane, Gary Clark, Katrine Trolle, and Anvar Khan. I count three men and two women. I wonder if he invited Gail along or was she stuck at home looking after their daughter?

I don’t condemn Tommy for doing the swinging thing. Hey, to each his own. What bothers me is he didn’t want to man up to his actions and tell the public and his constituents that yeah, he likes to swing every now and then. So what. You know how it is when you’re a married man in your mid 40’s and feeling a bit bored, sometimes a little swinging can put the swing back in your relationship.

It’s funny that Gail describe Tommy as “boring” and that he would rather play Scrabble than have sex. I guess Scrabble was his front. Or maybe he was doing what he thought she wanted him to do – you know, be a domesticated family man playing Scrabble as a gesture of spending quality time together, when actually all he probably wanted to do was jump her bones. And she probably wanted him to jump her bones, but he missed the signals, like men are prone to do. We find it hard to read women.

Maybe it’s the communications barrier. We all know we want sex. So why all the drama? Why not just get busy, like we did when we were horny teenagers groping each other in the park after dark or in the cemetery where we knew no-one would find us. I guess romance replaces horniness. Women want romance or at least that’s my perception. Men, we want to knock the boots with no fanfare. But then we’re made to feel guilty thinking of women as sex objects, a receptacle for our lust. So instead, we opt out of sex with our partners altogether and turn to extra-marital shenanigans. As Yasmin Alibhai-Brown alluded to, some times gentlemen prefer whores because its easier, like going to the grocery store and buying any other product.

It’s a shame Tommy boy didn’t just own up to his sexual shenanigans. Now if things don’t turn out in his favour in January, he’ll have to hope his girl will pay him a conjugal visit. Although, judging from her past actions, she’s more likely to send him another postcard from Barbados saying ‘Hope you and Bowling Bag Bob are having a good time in cellblock four.’

I am sitting in a greasy roadside diner.  The smell of cooked fat sits heavy in the air.  I know that when I leave here, the smell of grease will have crept into every fiber of my clothes.  People will think that I work in a kitchen. I try to convince myself that sitting close to the door might help keep the smell off of me.  But I doubt it will really. If food is hot topic for men, sex is an even bigger topic.  There is a piece of research out that suggests that the biggest regret in life men have is not having had enough sex.  They did a survey of old men who statistically didn’t have a lot of time left.  70% of the old men surveyed said that they regret not having had more sex.  They said they didn’t want more kids, mind you, just more sex.