November 17, 2020

Coffee Notes: Tuesday, 17 November 2020

Rucking is proving to be just what I need in terms of getting totally obsessed with fitness again. I did a simple ruck march – 3 miles carrying 20lbs – yesterday and today I am feeling it – in a good way – my body has that happy ache and my mind is agile and awake. 

I spent half the day doing admin and the other half on Zoom with a new client prepping for an upcoming programme to help junior women tap into their ambition.

I’m never one to do things half-assed. So of course, once I set my mind on rucking as a form of fitness, I had to get a new rucksack to mark the occasion. I have a number of hiking rucksacks, but I wanted an assault rucksack (in black of course) designed to be rugged and thrown around and able to take a lot of weight and abuse. The ruck is all prepped now – straps all taped up. I’ll take it on its inaugural ruck march later this afternoon (I’m not ready to face the ruck this morning, besides, I have to make a run into Leamington to record the next Tina Talks video for a client).

I was trying to find a book to read with the right vibe to suit my current mood. I finally found it in Sam Harris’s book Waking Up: Searching for Spirituality Without Religion

Some passages that caught my attention in the first section:

Our minds are all we have. They are all we have ever had. And they are all we can offer others…Every relationship is as good or bad as it is because of the minds involved. 

I was talking to a friend about this very concept last week. We were having a conversation about whether or not I take their spiritual beliefs seriously. While I don’t discourage people’s beliefs, I do question them as to their reality. For me, all spiritual practices are metaphors for something we can’t exactly express. And my point was that none of it is “real.” All of it takes place in the mind. The whole of the universe is contained in the mind. Everything that we experience, feel, think happens in the mind. Even our physical space is made real only in the mind. So Harris’s point above really resonated with me.

Another point that made me stop and think:

How we pay attention to the present moment largely determines the character of our experiences and, therefore, the quality of our lives.

I think most of us struggle to have a quality present moment because our attention constantly shifts between the past and the future. What happened? And What needs to happen next? We can distract our minds with activity. For instance, I’m totally focused on writing these notes right now, am I really “experiencing” the present moment? Or am I distracted from myself with the activity of writing? 

What is it like to be totally in the present moment? To be aware and unaware at the same time is what I imagine the present moment to be like.

Is your love boundless and impersonal? Or is it transactional – I love you because…

I love you because you’re my husband, wife, mother, father, brother, sister, friend etc

Have you ever experienced boundless love? Or does your love always come with a reason?